Having hope is about knowing where to go to for help. Here are the areas of my expertise…
Sometimes natural human tendencies such as people pleasing or caretaking can get out of hand, where they either cause you or others harm. Awareness is one thing, learning how to skilfully communicate and assert yourself is at the root of relationship recovery.
Rediscover yourself! You’re there somewhere…
Anxiety and Depression
When we feel disconnected from ourselves, unable to express and fulfil our needs and wants we can become anxious.
Anxiety is when this becomes a permanent ‘state’, with no apparent way out.
It can lead to panic attacks and OCD. Depression can seem like a bottomless pit of hopelessness, exhaustion and apathy.
The main antidote - connection to ourselves and others - not only seems impossible, but even undesirable: a real sense of ‘what’s the point’.
Just as anxiety and depression is individually experienced, so the treatment needs to be tailored within this framework.
Eating Disorders and Obesity
Whilst people may often talk about eating disorders in terms of control or lack of control, these conditions are far more complex. Labels such as ‘anorexic’ or ‘bulimic’ can feel very dehumanising. You are not a label! We’ll work together, looking at everything that maybe influencing your disordered eating.
We start with education about eating disorders and healthy eating as well as your own personal story before moving on to activities and strategies to improve your relationship with yourself and food.
Addiction is often stigmatised in our culture, with images of brown paper bags and park benches. The reality is that addiction affects all walks of life and can look different for different people. Firstly, I offer information and education about what addiction is and is not.
With this information we can then work on helping you change your behaviour and focus on what underlying drivers may be of influence.
There is no one ‘cause’ of addiction - it’s like the perfect storm of personality, trauma, environment and genes. Taking something to numb emotional pain can seem like a very rational thing to do - until it causes more pain and misery than the thing you are trying to numb.
With openness, honesty and willingness recovery is possible.
Having dyslexia can be traumatising - experience of verbal abuse (being called ‘thick’ or ‘lazy’); struggling at school, can develop into a lack of a sense of belonging from a young age. Plus, there can be a deep frustration around the focus on your struggles, rather than a recognition of your talents. Trauma like this can have far-reaching effects and I believe that the skills I have can help in handling this trauma. I also have two sons who are dyslexic so I know first hand the difficulties it can present.